Holy and Blessed Family: An Example to Emulate?
by Abul Kasem
Family is the basic building block of a society. If the families in a society are happy, then that society becomes a happy one. A happy family requires a strong love and sense of belonging and feelings between the spouses and a sense of security in the minds of children. A family cannot be happy if any of the spouses engages in philandering and collecting wives/husbands or engaging in objectionable behaviour like child molestation etc. Readers may have read that Islamists often talk a lot about peace and harmony in a family life. Where can we find the examples of peaceful and loving family lives? The answer, according to the Islamists, of course, is the examples of the prophet and his closest friends and allies. Day and night, these Islamists are preaching that in all aspects of our lives we should imitate the prophet (pbuh) and his disciples. These are the examples of the holy families that the Muslims are supposed to emulate. Let us now briefly see what examples the prophet of mercy (pbuh) and his closest partners have left for the rest of the Muslim Ummah to follow. I have included the brief descriptions of all the wives of prophet Mohammad, his four Caliphs (Khulafa Rashedin) and two Imams (Imam Hasan and Imam Husain).
After the death of Khadijah, his first wife, Mohammad went on a wife collection spree. Between the ages of 50 to 58, he collected at least seven wives. The ages of his wives ranged from a mere 6 years old child to a 50 years old lady! It is more surprising that at the age of 60 alone, Mohammad collected another sortie of at least four wives whose ages ranged from 17 years Safiyah to 36 years Maimunah. It is interesting to note that as Mohammad was ageing he desired more and more young women.
Muhammad’s lust for young/child girls is clearly stated in hadith. Here is one example:
Narrated Jabir bin ‘Abdullah:
When I got married, Allah’s Apostle said to me, “What type of lady have you married?” I replied, “I have married a matron’ He said, “Why, don’t you have a liking for the young virgins and for fondling them?” Jabir also said: Allah’s Apostle said, “Why didn’t you marry a young girl so that you might play with her and she with you?’ ( Sahih Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 17)
Mohammad left the following examples to his followers (in marriage):
If possible, marry rich women so that they can support you (Khadijah, Zainab bt. Jahsh). In this case, you do not need to work. You can be a parasite.
Marry old women only to take care of your family (Saudah, Umm Salam Hind, Zainab bt. Khuzaima). That is, marry old women to save on maidservant’s pay.
It is okay to marry children as young as 6 (Ayesha). This is to satisfy your paedophilic fantasies and also to ensure a carer when you are about to die. You will save on nursing charges as well as having a youthful face around.
You can marry your friend’s daughters (Ayesha, Hafsah) even though you may be like their grandfather or even great grandfather.
You can marry your adopted son’s wife (Zainab bt. Jahsh) even though Islam forbids the adoption of children.
You can marry your first cousin (Zainab bt. Jahsh). In many societies, it is almost like committing incest. However, in Islam this is perfectly okay.
You can marry and have sex with your captives (Safiyah); but always take the most beautiful and the youngest girls as your prisoners. Do not go for the old, ugly, poor and hapless women prisoners.
It is all right to accept women as gifts (Umm Habibah, Mariyah) and to have sex with them by marrying them. Make sure the women are extremely attractive and young.
You can marry and have sex with your slave girls given as gifts (Mariyah).
You can also have sex with unlimited number of girls got as gift and/or war booty, without marriage.
If a captive refuses to marry you, then you can keep her as a concubine (Rayhana) and have sex with her until you’re contended.
Here are some details of women the prophet of Islam married or kept as concubines.
The prophet said, “the woman can be married for religion, her fortune or her beauty. So marry one for the religion” (Abu Issa al-Tarmidi, Sunan al-Tarmidi, Medina n.d., p.275, B:4, H:1092). I quote one more hadith for confirmation:
Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet said, “A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a losers. (Sahih Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 27)
Notice that prophet never talked of love, sense of belonging and feelings between men and women. The basis of his relationship is all physical.
(1) Khadijah Bint. Khuwaylid: Khadija was the employer of Mohammad. Her father was killed in a battle. She was a business lady and wealthy. Mohammad was 25 and she was 40 when they got married. Khadija had two previous marriages before marrying Mohammad. That is, Mohammad was her third husband. Mohammad had his first revelation when he was 40 and Khadija was 55. They had the togetherness of 15 years. Khadija bore all the children of Mohammad. She died in December 619 A.D. at the age of 65. Muhammad did not have to work, as long as Khadija was live.
(2) Saudah Bint. Zama: She was neither young nor beautiful. She was the right lady to take care of Mohammad’s young children after the death of Khadijah. They got married in 620 A.D. She was middle aged, plump, jolly and of kindly disposition. She was a widow. She lived on until the end of time of Umor. Mohammad married Sauda when he was 53 and she was 50 almost same time when he married Aisha. It is stated that Sauda “gave” her “nights” to Ayesha to have him for sex (www.islamic-paths.org/Hom…r-02.htm). That meant that old Sauda was a maid servant while young Ayesha was for sex,
(3) Ayesha Bint Abu Bakar Al-Siddiq: Mohammad married Aisha 3 years before migration to Medina. She was 6 years old when the prophet married her and he consummated the marriage when she turned 9 years. She was the only virgin woman in Mohammad’s life. She transmitted 2000 hadiths. When the prophet died, she was 18 years old. She died at the age of 57.
(4) Hafsah Bint Umar: Hafsah was the daughter of Caliph Umor. She was first married to Khunais Ibn alkhattab. She became a widow at the age of 18. She married Mohammad in 635 A.D (13 A.H) 3 months after migration. She was 20 years and Mohammad was 56 years when they got married. She lived with Mohammad for 8 years. She died in 47 A.H. (668 A.D.) at the age of 63.
(5) Zainab Bint Khuzaima: Her first husband, Abdullah bin Jahsh died in the battle of Uhud. Therefore, Mohammad married her. He married her soon after his marriage to Hafsah. She was 30 and Mohammad was 56 when they got married. She died very soon after the marriage.
(6) Umm Salam Hind Bint. Abi Umayya: Her first husband was Abd. B. Abdul Asad. They got married in 626 A.D. (4 A.H.) when she was 29. She had 4 children (Salama, Umar, Zaynab, Darra) from her previous marriage. She had to take care of her children. Her son was Salama. She was with Mohammad for 7 years. She outlived all other wives of Mohammad. She died in 61 A.H. at an age of 84.
(7) Zainab Bint Jahsh: Her original name was Barra. She married Mohammad in 5 A.H. (627 A.D). She was 35 and Mohammad was 58 when they were married. She was originally married to Zayed (Muhammad’s adopted son) and Mohammad himself arranged that marriage. She was the first cousin of Mohammad. Zainab’s mother Umayma was the daughter of Abdul Muttalib, Mohammad’s grandfather. One day the prophet (saw) “beheld in a loose undress, the beauty of Zainab, and burst wanted to have her”. The grateful adopted son Zayed bin Harith then divorced Zainab to clear the way for the prophet to marry her. Special revelations were made to sanctify the marriage (33:37,53) that permits the Muslims to marry an adopted son’s wife. However, this is absurd when Islam forbids adoption of children (33:4,5,37). Mohammad claims that Allah Himself performed his nikah with her. She was 35 when Mohammad married her. Ayat of hijab (33:53-56) was also revealed after the feast of their marriage. Zainab was a very independent lady. She used to earn her own living by selling leather products and was not dependent on Mohammad for his charity. By marrying Zainab Bint, Jahsh Mohammad demonstrated that it is permissible to marry a first cousin. She died in 20 A.H. (641 A.D.). She was the first wife to die after Mohammad’s death.
( Juwairiah Bint. Al-Harith: She was taken as a captive in a raid. That is, she was part of spoils of war in the battle against Banu Mustaliq. Her father was the chief of Banu Mustaliq. She was taken as a captive by a soldier named Thabit Ibn Qais. She was extremely beautiful. Some claim that Mohammad bought her from Thabit. Mohammad married her in 5 A.H. (627 A.H.), when he was 58 and she was 20. The marriage took place after Mohammad’s marriage to Zainab Bint Jahsh. She was married to Mohammad for 6 years. She lived for another 39 years after Mohammad’s death. She died in 50 A.H. (670 A.H.) at an age of 65. She was Jewish.
(9) Safiyah Bint Huyay: She was a war booty. She was taken a captive after the slaughter in Khybar. In that battle, she lost her father, recently married husband and all other close relatives. This captured Jewish woman was given to a Muslim soldier called Dahia. However, when Mohammad saw her exquisite beauty she immediately bought her from Dahia and proposed to marry her. She was in a state of shock when brought to Mohammad. Safiyah’s cousin sister was also brought along with Safiyah but Mohammad was not interested in her cousin as she was not that pretty. Safiyah had no choice but to marry Mohammad to save her life. She was 17 years old when she married the 60 years old Mohammad. She was with Mohammad for 4 years. She was 21 when the prophet of Islam died. She lived as a widow for the next 39 years. She died in 50 A.H (673 A.D.) at the age of 60.
(10) Umm Habibah Ramla Bint Abu Sufyan Ibn Sakhr: She was sent to Ethiopia during the migration of the first handful of Muslims to Ethiopia. The King of Ethiopia, Negas presented her to Mohammad as a wife. She was married to the prophet in (1 A.H.) proxy by Negas. She was 35 and the prophet was 60 at the time of marriage. She came to live with Mohammad in 7 A.H. (629 A.D.). Her first husband was Ubaydullah Ibn Jahsh. He was the brother of Zainab Bint. Jahsh. Ubaydullah became a Christian while in Ethiopia; so, she had a divorce. Mu’awiya was her brother. She spent 4 years of her life with Mohammad and continued living another 33 years. She died at the age of 72 in 44 A.H.
(11) Mariyah al-Qibtiyaa: She was a Coptic sex slave. The King of Egypt gave her to Mohammad as a slave. Mohammad married her when she was 20 and he was 60. She was extremely beautiful and gave birth to a son whom Mohammad named Ibrahim. Ibrahim died at infancy at an age of 18 months (some sources say 10 months). Mariyah spent 3 years of her life with Mohammad.
(12) Maimunah (or Barra) Bint. Al Harith: Mohammad married her when he was 60 and she was 36 in 629 A.D. (7 A.H). Zainab Bint Khuzaima was her half sister. She was the last woman the prophet married due to the restriction imposed on him by Allah (33:50, 33:52). She lived with Mohammad for just 3 years. After Mohammad died, Maimunah lived for another 40 years. She died at an age of 80 (51 A.H.). She was Mohammad’s last wife to die.
Other women in Mohammad’s life
(13) Rayhana: She was not a real wife. She was a booty from a battle. She was a Jewish girl of extreme beauty; so, Mohammad proposed to marry her. However, she refused to covert to Islam and marries Mohammad. Therefore, she became a sex slave of Mohammad. However, in many places we get that he married her.
(14) Duba Bint Amr: She was among the most beautiful of Arab women. Her hair was very long to cover her entire body (Ibn Saad, al-Tabaqat, p 153). Mohammad was attracted to her and asked her son’s permission to marry her. But the prophet backed out from the marriage proposal when he heard that although very beautiful Duba was ageing.
(15) Fatima (16) Hend (17) Asma (of Saba) (1 Habla
(19) Asma (of Noman): The prophet discovered that she was suffering from leprosy. He did not consummate the marriage.
(20) Omm Sharik (21) Maymuna (not of Hareth) (22) Zainab (third) (23) Khawla
(24) Amrah Bint Yazeed: She became a Muslim a very short period before her marriage to the prophet. When she arrived at Medina and saw the prophet, she appealed to Allah for refuge from the prophet. The prophet sent her back to her people.
Besides the first 12 wives, Mohammad married many other women but did not consummate the marriage. All together, he had 28 women in his life. He was 62 when he left this mortal world.
Caliph Abu Bakar’s wives
Abu Bakar was born in 573 and died in August 22, 634 (www.witness-pioneer.org/v…apter2.htm ). He was 63 when he died. He was buried by the side of the prophet. He was the Caliph for two years (632 – 634). He fixed 40 lashes for drinking liquor. A lot of Islamists claim that he was very kind and merciful. Here is an example of his ‘kindness’.
At Badr, one of Abu Bakr’s sons who had not yet embraced Islam was fighting on the side of the Meccan. Afterwards, when he became a Muslim, he one day said, “Father! At Badr, you were twice under my sword. But my love for you held back my hand”. “Son, replied Abu Bakr, “If I had got that chance only on once, you must have been no more”. This is the example of kindness, love and mercy from the first caliph of Islam. (//www.islamicresources.com/Prominent_Muslims/Abu-Bakr/participation_in_the_holy_wars.htm).
He had altogether four wives in his lifetime. He was the mildest when it comes to collecting wives/women.
(1) Qatilah Bint. Abdul aziz: She was the mother of two children; Abdullah (son), Asma (daughter).
(2) Umm -I- Ruman: She gave birth to two children; Ayesha (daughter) and Abdul Rahman (son). Mohammad married Ayesha when she was 6 years and consummated the marriage when she was 9 years old. Mohammad was 52 years old when he married Ayesha).
(3) Asma: Abu Bakar had one child (son), Muhammad (he was involved in the assassination of Uthman, the fourth caliph of Islam) from her.
(4) Habiba: One child (daughter): She was the mother of Umm-I-Kulthum (daughter). Umme Kulthum was born after the death of Abu Bakr. She (Uumm-I- Kulthum) was probably married to Umor, the second caliph of Islam. She was around 4 to 5 years old when Umor married her!
Caliph Umor’s wives and sex slaves
Umor was the second Caliph of Islam. He ruled for 10 years (634 – 644). He was assasinated by a slave while in prayer.
(1) Zainab: She was the sister of Uthman Bin Mazun
(2) Kareeba: She was the daughter of Ibn Umaitul Makhzami and sister of prophet Mohammad’s wife Umm Salma. She did not embrace Islam.
(3) Maleka (also known as Umm Kulthum): She was the daughter of Jarul Khuzai. She did not embrace Islam.
(4) Jameela: Her original name was Asiah bint Sabat Ansari. She was an ansar lady. After marriage Umor changed her name to Jameela,
(5) Sabiha Bint Al-Haris: She was the first Muslim woman who fled fro Quraish and sought asylum with the Muslims after the Hudaybiah pact. The prophet got her married to Umor.
(6) Ateka bint Zaid: She was a cousin of Umor. She was previously married to Abdullah, the son of Abu Bakr. After the death of Abdullah, Umor married her.
(7) Umm Hakim: She had two husbands previously. They were Ikramah bin Abu Jaki and Khalid bin Sa’id. When both of these husbands died in battles, Umor then married her.
( Umme Kulthum: Umme Kulthum was 4 or 5 years old when Umor married her. This child was his most favourite wife (just like prophet Mohammad). There is a great controversy about the identity of this child bride of Umor. Many Islamists claim that she was the daughter of Ali and Fatima. Others claim that Umme Kulthum was the posthumous daughter of Abu Bakar and Habiba. Abu Bakar died (13 A.H.) a few months before Umme Kulthum was born. She was the half sister of Ayesha. So, Umor asked Ayesha for the hand of Umme Kulthum when she (Umme Kulthum) was only 4 – 5 years old. Ayesha agreed and Umor and Umme Kulthum got married. It is not known at what age of Umme Kulthum, Umor consummated the marriage. I could not find any reference as to the age of Umor when he married this child. However, we can make some calculations to find out his age at the time of marriage.
Umor was born 13 years after prophet Mohammad. Mohhammad was born in 570. So, Umor must have been born in 583 A.D. (other records show that Umor was born around 580 A.D.)
Let us assume that Umor married Umme Kulthum bt. Ali. Sunni references (Al Farooq vol. II by Shibli Numani p 539. History of Abul Fida, vol. I p 171) suggest that this marriage took place in 17 A.H (623 A.D.). Sunni references also suggest that Umme Kulthum was 4 to 5 years old when Umor married her. Let us say that she was 5 years old when the marriage took place. This will put the date of birth of Umme Kulthum as 12 A.H, which is 634 A.D.
Therefore, Umor was 51 years (634 – 583 = 51) when Umme Kulthum was born.
Thus, Umor was at least 56 years old (51+ 5 = 56) years old when he married this child.
Now, let us assume that Umor married the posthumous daughter of Abu Bakar. Historical record suggests that Abu Bakar died in 13 A.H and Umme Kulthum Bint Abu Bakar was born a few months after his death. That is, we can safely say that Umme Kulthum was born in 13 A.H., which is 635 A.D.
Sunnis suggests that this marriage took place in 17 A.H. = 639 A.D.
Umor must have been at least 56 years (639 – 583 = 56) years old when he married this child of 4 to 5 years old.
Whichever version of the marriage we accept, it is absolutely clear that Umor was very much past his 50’s when he married Umme Kulthum. Incredible! Umor surpassed his master when it came to child marriage. However, Islamic history and Hadith are absolutely and positively silent on when Umor consummated this marriage. If we assume that Umor followed the example of the prophet (pbuh) and consummated the marriage when Umme Kulthum was 9 years, he must had been at least 59 years when he did that. Even if we assume that Umor had sex with Umme Kulthum just before he was assassinated (he was 61 years when he died), she could be only around 10 (5+5 =10) years old!
Thus, Umor probably had sex with a 9 or 10 years old child when he was 59/60! He had really surpassed his master who we thought was a great pedophile!
(9) Fakiah Yamania: She was a sex slave to Umor. She bore him a daughter (Zainab)
(10) Laiyah: She was also a sex slave to Umor and bore him a child.
Wives of Caliph Uthman
Uthman belonged to the clan of Bani Umayyah. He was the Caliph for 12 years (644 – 656). He was murdered when in prayer. His wives were:
(1) Rukaia: She was the second daughter of prophet Mohammad. Initially, Rukaia was married to Utbah Bin Abu Lahab. Utbah divorced her soon after marriage. The prophet then got her married to Uthman b. Affan (Caliph). They migrated to Abyssinia during the first wave of Muslim migration to Abyssinia. They had one son named Abdullah who was born in Abyssinia and died at the age of 6.
(2) Umme Kultum : She was the third daughter of prophet Mohammad. She was previously married to Utaibah b. Abu Lahab but was divorced soon. Then prophet got her married to Uthman b Affan (the Caliph). They had two sons. Both the sons died at infancy. Thus, Uthman married two daughters of prophet Mohammad (Rukaia and after Rukaia’s death Umme Kultum).
(3) Fakhta: (4) Fatema (5) Ummul Banin (6) Ramla (7) Naela Not much details are available regarding these wives of Uthman.
Wives of Caliph Ali
(1) Fatema: Fatema was the youngest daughter of prophet Mohammad. Ali was the son of Abdul Mutalib, prophet’s uncle. Thus, Ali was the first cousin of prophet Mohammad. Ali married Fatima when he was 21 and Fatima was 15 years old. Ali did not marry another woman as long as Fatima was alive. After Fatima died due to a fatal injury when her house was burnt down, Ali started collecting more wives. Ali and Fatima had five children. They were: Hasan, Husain, Zainab, Umm Kulthum, Mohsin (still birth).
(2) Yamamah: She was the cousin of Fatima. It is said that at her deathbed Fatima requested that Ali marry Yamamah after her (Fatima’s) death. Ali kept her request.
(3) Hanafia: Ali married Hanafia after the death of Yamamah. They had one son. Details are not available.
(4) Ummul Banin (5) Laeela (6) Asma
(7) Umama: Umama was Zainab’s (prophets eldest daughter) daughter. That is, she was the grand daughter of the prophet. So, Imam Ali married the grand daughter of his cousin brother (Mohammad).
(5) Khaola (6) Umme Saeed (7) Muh’aat ( An unknown woman.
Wives of Imam Hasan
Imam Hassan (eldest son of Ali and the elder brother of Imam Husain) had countless wives. He had between 70 to 300 wives or concubines. Poisoning by one of his disappointed wives killed him. In a book entitled ‘Quwwat al-Qulub ( vol.2, p.246) written by Abu Talib Makki (died in 380 A.H.) it is written, “Hasan often married 4 wives in one sitting and then divorced 4 wives in one sitting” ( www.al-islam.org/al-serat…asan.htm). There is no proper record of his permanent wives. But authorities suggest that Imam Hasan had at least three wives in Kufa. They were:
(1) Khawal Fazariya: This marriage took place in Medina. She was the mother of Hasan Muthana.
(2) Umm Ishaq Bint Talha: This marriage also took place in Medina. She was the mother of Husain Athram, Talha and Fatima. After the death of Imam Hasan, she married Imam Husain (younger brother of Imam Hasan).
(3) Ju’da bint Ash-ath: Imam Hasan married this woman in Kufa. She survived Imam Hasan. She poisoned him on the instigation of Mu’awiyah.
So, how is it possible to acquire up to 300 wives in ones lifetime? This is not impossible when we consider the system of M’uta marriage in Islam. Although the Sunnis have banned the M’uta system, it is very much in practice among the Shias. It is quite possible to have a M’uta marriage every night and kick out the woman next morning. There is no need of divorce in M’uta marriage. This type of marriage is a contract to sleep together and that is all. Also, remember that though there is restriction of up to four permanent wives at any time, there is no such restriction on the number of temporary wives that one can have at any time. In modern language, we call this ‘one night stand’. Muta’a marriage has absolutely no time limit. So, “one-night’s play” is perfectly Islamic. M’uta marriage is the Islamic version of ‘one night stand’. See; Islam has the solution even for the playboys. Imam Hasan was definitely an Islamic ‘Playboy’ of his time.
Readers, please think for a while how does Mu’ta marriage differ from common prostitution except some utterance of some “holy” words? There is no difference. Allowing it by the prophet or anybody is a serious blow on the philosophy of a family with wife and kids
The question naturally arises as to why Islam, the perfect religion of Allah allows/ allowed his ‘playboys’ to have ‘one night stand?’ We can find the answer if we look at the bloody unholy history of Islam and it’s prophet. According to Sunni belief and Sahi Bokhari, the prophet banned Muta’a marriage “Until Keyamat” ONLY AFTER the Muslims became victorious. Therefore, the believers must admit that there was some thing wrong in it. Then, why did he allow it in the beginning? You know what? The Muslim army had to be served by all possible means and attractions of heaven and hell without a shadow of question of morality. Therefore, he allowed them the advantage of Muta’a marriage and plenty of damsels as war booty plus lands and properties. Notice that all the war booties were distributed only among the warriors, not to commoners or to the Govt (administration).
Wives of Imam Husain
Imam Husain married five times. His wives were
(1) Janabe Shahr Banu d/o Yazd Gurd, the last emperor of Iran.She gave birth to Imam Zaynul Abedin (fourth Imam). She died within ten days of Imam Zaynul’s birth.
(2) Janabe Rabab d/o Imran Al Qays: She gave birth to Sakinah and baby Abdullah (Ali Asghar). She died one year after the Karbala tragedy.
(3) Janabe Laila d/o Abu Murra. Her mother was Maymunah d/o Abu Sufyan. Thus she was the cousin of Yazid. She gave birth to Ali Akbar, a son. She was not alive during the tragedy of Karbala.
(4) Janabe Qud’iyah: She gave birth to a son, Jaffor who died in infancy.
(5) Janabe Umm Ishaq d/o Talhah: She gave birth to Fatema Kubra, a daughter.
In addition, do not forget that Imam Husain also married Umm Ishaq Bint Talha the widow of his elder brother Imam Hasan!
These are the lessons we learn from the Khulafa Rashedin and the two Imams of Islam.
If required, it is okay to kill your son from the same family for Islam. This was the example set by the first Caliph of Islam, Abu Bakar.
You can give your child daughter in marriage to a paedophile (example of Ayesha and Umme Kulthum)
It is all right to marry a child of 4 to 5 years when you are around 56 years (Umor marrying Umme Kulthum).
You can marry two blood sisters from the same family (not concurrently) as in the example of Caliph Uthman marrying Rukaia and Umme Kultum both were daughters of prophet Mohammad.
You can marry your daughter to your cousin brother (Fatema and Ali).
You can marry the grand daughter of your cousin brother (Ali marrying Umama, the daughter of Zainab, the daughter of the prophet).
If you are not satisfied with your present wives, you can always become an ‘Islamic Playboy’ through ingenious M’uta marriage.
How beautiful the Islamic families will be if we really followed the ‘real Islam’!
Holy and Blessed Family: An Example to Emulate?